What is the art of love? What is at the heart of love? Below you will read the holy bibles reality of the way in which love flows fluidly.
1 Corinthians (NIV)
13 If I speak in the tonguesa]”>[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,b]”>[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)
23 Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.
Both the section in Corinthians and Proverbs are contrasting but each way is needed to live a life in full and peaceful bloom. In other words you have to be able to forgive, guard your heart but not be bitter, and hold love above all else!
Guarding your heart means you are not allowing a viscious cycle of insanity to hold a space in your mind. It means you love yourself enough to walk away from a situation that no longer serves a greater purpose in your life. It means you are removing yourself from a toxic situation so that you may live again. It is so that you may know what true love really means.
Yes we must forgive and not hold no records of wrongs but this doesn’t me we should stay in a relentless cycle of abuse because we say “but I love them” or “I see potential in them” or “he said he won’t do it again.” This is us not guarding our hearts when it is needed the most!
Abuse comes in many forms. It can be physical which is easily caught, it can be mental or emotional which are very similar but also very different yet both are often swept under the rug or go completely unoticed then there is sexual abuse. When you truly love you will know when to walk away from a situation that subjects you to this type of abuse. You will understand that the longer you stay attached to someone who is hurting you the longer it will take to find yourself around the right one and the less time you will have with them.
Forgiving and moving forward doesn’t mean you are giving up it means you are taking the necessary steps to revitalize your life and create the love in which you wish to receive. Walking away doesn’t mean goodbye. It means I will let you go so that we may both find peace because we are at two different places in our lives spiritually and emotionally. When you let that toxic person go you can continue in love by praying for them forgiving them, and guarding your heart by staying away from them.
You are worthy of the greatest love of all and you are beautiful beyond measure. God has designed someone specifically for you and with just a little faith you will make it through this dark time to learn the true art of love. -Maria De Amor